The Hardest Part

[Tristen Cox]

What is or was the hardest part about coming out to your SO?

[Rachael Warren]

That was a long time ago, but I remember not being able to find the right words or moment to do it.

What I did do was to buy a skirt and wore it one night at bed time as a surprise.

Freya laughed her head off, I was a little overweight at the time. ;)

We started talking shortly after that episode.

[Jenny Beth]

Same here, it was so long ago I don't remember much. What I do remember is not knowing why I had these feelings and urges, we cried a lot. At one point we thought that if I gave into these desires I'd feel silly and the thoughts would go away. There were times I thought this side of me could cost me the most wonderful woman I'd ever met. I should point out we never fought, in fact to this day we've never had an arguement about anything. I suppose the hardest part was when my daughter discovered this about me. I had no answers for her at the time and was not prepared for the outcome. She's okay with it now but there was a long period of hurt.

[Priscilla Anne Rose]

I was sick of the hiding and fear of getting caught,moving my stash around.After spending a month on the old place I got up the nerve to do it.Iwas so scared,I told my wife we needed to talk after dinner in my office(her mother lives with us).I had exta wine that night with dinner and a couple xanax.Wow,talk about anticlimax,she said OK what do you want from me?I said support.We have talked more since that night and things are normal.I am not a nervous wreck anymore.

[Stephanie Mancini]

Deciding to come out and tell your wife or partner is the moment it really hits home to you probably for the first time in your life that in doing so you have to be in all honesty prepared to lose them period, thankfully my wife has supported me from day1, yes there was lots of tears at first, me included but we sat down and just communicated, call it a girls intuition or whatever but my wife new something was amiss and it was as much a relief to her as it was for me that it was all out in the open now,



Steph

[LouiseCassellUK]

Must admit telling the SO at the time was easy for some reason - I just told her before we moved in together and got married - I assured her she could borrow whatever she liked as long as she didnt ruin it.


The hardest bit for me wsa her opening her big trap during and after the big D

[Caci]

Taking the leap to tell Deb was hard. I must admit I felt a bit embarrassed at first. I couldn't bare our relationship with her not knowing.
This is who I am, and it wouldn't be fair for her not to know.
I wish I had the nerve to say so earlier on.

I am sooo happy things have worked out the way they have.

[Brittney M.]

I remember how hard it was and not being able to tell her in words, I had to write it in a letter. It didn't go to well at first. It wasn't long after that when I started to see a therepist and I had to admit it again to a total stranger in which I would of rather had thumb screws. But after that my went a couple of meetings and things got better for the both of us.

[Julie Marie]

We weren't even married when I told her. I don't think we were even engaged. But I we were serious enough that I knew I had to tell her. I think I cried. I know I did with my first serious girlfriend when I was in my early 20's. The hardest part was trying to explain why. I couldn't.

I still have a tough time with that.

[olivia]

[QUOTE=Julie Marie]We weren't even married when I told her. I don't think we were even engaged. But I we were serious enough that I knew I had to tell her. I think I cried.

Julie, that sounds like I could have written it. It was exactly the same for me. I knew that if I was going to go further with Jackie, then I just had to tell her. That has been so long ago, circa '75, maybe '76. We married in 1977, so it was quite a while before that. I cannot imagine having to, or being able to, keep a secret like that from a wife. I know that not all circumstances are the same for everyone; and that many feel as though they must keep it hidden from their SO. I was very fortunate then, and feel even more fortunate now with the level of trust and acceptance that we have. Ultimately, it was about the power of love. Olivia

[parris james]

My wife left me so I just thought I would tell her to give her a reason for leaving, Ok I'm an idiot