Taking advantage of the "feminine" side

[silk]

I'd like to know what you girls do to make you're GG take advantage of your "feminine" side. Or, if you're a GG just let me know if you do.

My example of this is this....

I don't ever consider my SO as feminine EVER. Even when he's in his sexiest lingerie I don't consider him as a feminine figure. The only thing that sets him apart from other men that I've been with is the fact that he LOVES to cook, clean, and TALK about our problems (who would of thunk that one.. LOL)..

anyways... I'm sure there are a lot of non CDers out there that do stuff like that but what I want to know is what you do for your GG that she wouldn't get if she were with a non CDer and for the GG's what you think you have that you wouldn't have if you were with a non CDer?????

[Rachael Warren]

That is a difficult question to answer Silk. Many partners will clean cook etc, that is quite normal.

As for things more unusual, I look after Freya's hair for one, and I am not a hairdresser!

I think also one of the main differences between CD's and non CD's is that if we have opened out and shared this aspect of ourselves with our SO's it shows true commitment. This is the case with me, Freya knows she can trust me implicitly with everything. (Even her wardrobe:p ).

Another thing is that we are a lot more compassionate and loving.

Oh and don't forget we tend to be non-violent, I lash out only with words!

[silk]

Thanks Rachel. I figured this thread would be a toughy. But I think to myself that there are definate traits that Lace has that no other man I have ever been with. I like to think that this may have something to do with his dressing.. maybe, maybe not. It's soooo nice to have a man that likes to talk about his feelings.. and wants ME to talk about my feelings.

The way he loves me is a very special kind of love. The guy I was with before was extremely abusive, and a cheater. I thought that I would never trust a man again. But only after 5 months I can say that I truly love, trust, and respect this wonderful man that I am with now. ;)

[Tristen Cox]

This is a difficult question for some. I can't answer from personal experience having no SO. Yet I think I get what you're asking. Most men can't relate to things like a broken nail or the headaches of picking out something to wear. Then again I've known quite a few CDers that polish their SO nails for them, help them shop for things with a better understanding of clothing, helping around the house, etc..

Perhaps being able to relate is best of all in this as many men don't seem to understand nor express this other side to themselves much less anyone else. Whether or not as a GG you look at your SO as feminine, it's nice to know they can see things better in regards to what a women does and goes through on a daily basis. What they like and dislike and why. If I were a true female this would be a nice attribute to having a CDer for an SO.

Just my two cents worth.

Yes I know...shaddup Tristen

[silk]

Thanks Tristen. That's exactly where I was going with this. I know that there are a lot of men out there that cook and clean and so on... but it's the personality that makes my Lace so different. He feels my pain when I need him to, he understands my feelings and "mood swings". That's what makes him so special. ;)

[Jenny Beth]

For me my femme side has certainly helped in recognizing and understanding my wife's different moods. We talk on a level that most men can't because they don't have the desire to know what a woman feels. In the past I was guilty of just that because I did not know what she needed to hear from me. I am getting pretty good at spotting when she's having a bad day just by her expressions and I like to think that it's from my own "women's intuition". Whether or not it is doesn't matter, it seems the more I try to understand her the more I understand myself.

[Deborah]

I don't have an SO but i cook, clean and do everything myself anyway. Occasionally i hate doing it but then sometimes i feel like it's all i want to do. Make sense?