Out???

[Tristen Cox]

-If you're out to someone, who are they?

-Why or how did it happen?

-And did you feel better afterwards?

I'm out to my mother and even a friend I worked with. This happened last year a few months after I found some of my online friends who are here now. Going through the explaining thing with mom was the most difficult thing I've had to do, whereas telling someone at work didn't seem to be a big deal. The burden of having to hide was gone and I felt wonderful beyond words. Trying to explain I was TS came too soon and appears to be yet another challenge to overcome. However at least I can talk from outside the closet now since it's too full of clothes to go back in there:D

[Rachael Warren]

[quote=Tristen Cox]

If you're out to someone, who are they?

So far, my wife and kids, my business partners and wifes, my mother and no doubt my sister and brother.

Why or how did it happen?

I told my wife a couple of years after we married, I didn't truely understand who or what I was, but I can't keep secrets from Freya. I spent the next fifteen years in complete isolation!

In the last two weeks I have outed myself to my business partners and my mother, I did this for two reasons.

Firstly, I was committed to getting this forum up and running regardless of my own issues, the people I have met in this community are so special to me I would give everything for them, they have helped me so much!

Secondly, I was so fed up of hiding, I can't live behind closed doors forever, not having a life as me, at least somewhere.

And did you feel better afterwards?

You bet, I am so much more relaxed now, I don't have to keep up the facade all the time, I can be me, this does seem to trancend the clothes a little now. (I ain't givin them up though!).

I can now just dress as I am comfertable at home, and that is all I have ever wanted.

I want to get out now, some how though!

Hugs, Rachael. :)

[Jayme]

I'm out to my ex (who's thankfully, a friend not an enemy) and also my Best friend who's a crazy wonderfull woman from down South. I just told her (my friend) one day while we were in bed together... But she'd already asked leading questions, she'd read me ages before but waited till I was ready to talk to her before she pushed me on the issue. Happily, she's got a keen interest, and we talk a lot about it all.

My ex, I told on our second date... It seemed the honest thing to do, and I guess I was very lucky because she accepted it, and stayed with me for 12 Years. Our split was caused by other things, dressing not an issue. She was never 100% happy with it, or the parts of my sexuality it brought to the fore, but she was cool... I accepted her with all of her personality, and she accepted mine.

XX

Jayme

[Khriss]

mom... an accident realy... she still.. or likely will..never "get it"... as other family or freinds...soo -...............ouch

[Priscilla Anne Rose]

Hi T,

I am out to my wife.I got the courage to do that from many of our sisters.It is great out of the closet,there's sunlight,rather than the darkness.

[Caci]

I am out to my wife only. I had to take the chance and tell Her because I wanted to share myself completely with Her. I think She had suspected for a while though. I feel better with Her knowing. Feel sooo much better now.

Besides...

I just can't hide this feeling inside!

Caci
:D

[Emily Ann Brown]

I outted to a dear GG friend who ironically knows my wife well. I did it intentionally because I needed someone I could breathe around. I felt and still feel so good about it.She was accepting at first, but didn't seem to be comfortable talking about it. Lately she seems more than willing to talk. When Karren got caught she took me out to lunch and let me just cry and get it out of my system. She is very special. Friday I asked her when we were going shopping. She said she wasn't going shopping for sheer teddies, which led to a discussion about my clothes and what I meant about shopping. In the end, she didn't say she wouldn't.

BTW, the wife and I have an invite to a dinner party at her home later this month.


Emily Ann

[Deborah]

If you're out to someone, who are they?

Ex-wife, mom, dad, 2 sisters, brother

-Why or how did it happen?

The ex guessed and my dad knew already somehow. My mom asked me about it last time she visited me because my ex told her. I came out to my sisters and brother since everyone else seemed to know.

-And did you feel better afterwards?

Yes because if i visit and feel like dressing up i can.:D

[Iria]

I came out to a few friends at work. It just sort of came up during conversation one night ( I work in a deli at walmart). They seem to be very okay with it. I feel so much better that at least a few people in my life know. :)

[Shinya]

Well then , I would say my mother knew of it early on , but didn't say anything about it.

Last relationship brought it out to my whole family, was messy. The family and I have never spoken of it sense.

There are many friends that have an idea, but I haven't brought it to light.

Beth (a GG) knows, as I was feeling close to her.

My bands mates Jay and John now know because I needed them to know. Hell if we got the thing off the ground and tour, I will most likely dress at some level. Oh course boots are the primary thing. {image, a 6'10" tall in heels bass player on stage}[no perving in the front row]......

All of you know :p ...

[Katie Ashe]

I am out to everyone I know. I have come out the closet this year, with Dawn's support. I have mixed emotions right now. I do dress openly now, even go out. I feel ashmed, convused, happy, sad, no longer 007 agent, but now more concerned about being a respectful rolemodel when I got out.

I have found an online friend that is helping me get my emotions in check.

[olivia]

My wife was the first person I ever told, this was way before we married. For the next twenty-many years, she was the only one. In the past 10 years I have told a very few friends and one cousin. Their reactions were mixed. None were really negative but some really didn't want to know anymore than the fact that I was a cd. Oh well, I guess I expected more interest; shoulda known...

In February past, I told both my grown children one afternoon. They have been so great about supporting me. My son is living at home currently and he has just completely accepted how I dress at home-no big deal to him, I'm still dad no matter how I'm dressed.

I came out to my mother one day in August. It could've gone better. First she told me "you're sick" and then, "you need to get some help " (as in mental help). I guess I should have sprung it on her a bit differently. She did say she'd need some time to adjust to it. But knowing her as I do, I doubt she'll ever mention it again unless I bring it up. And, I may not.

I am very glad that I told my kids. We've put a lot of emphasis on honesty with them and they deserved to know this. Their reaction just confirmed what I thought-they are wonderful young adults, open-minded, highly intelligent and non-judgmental. As for my friends, well, it's been a mixed bag. At least I have one friend that I can talk to about it, albeit, at not too deep a level.

As for telling my wife many years ago, before we even talked about marriage; I would never have considered marrying someone and making them part of my life without telling them. Secrets like ours can surely poison a relationship eventually. We've had our ups and downs over the subject but it's been worth it to finally reach the place where we are now. Olivia

[ginny]

my wife knows. she knew I had nylon and satin panties in my collection before we were married. she bought me a pair of panties, just once.

later it became a problem for her - to the detriment of our relationship.

as far as I know, nobody else knows. hiding any signs has become second nature. :cool:

[sarah]

Who? My wife since the day we first started going out because i wasnt going to have another relationship with Sarah in the closet,My eldest daughter (23) becaue she allways knew from a young age and loves the girl in me ..a few close friends so i can dress up without any one having issues....
How does it feel? fabulous but i would love to extend my social circle before i get to old to enjoy it ....

[Melissa Ryan]

Where to start! I am out to quite a few people that I know. However tonight was a little different. I have avoided a few friends for quite some time. Tonight I decided to out myself to my best "normal" friend. It has been a long time coming. We dont see each other so much any more , and I felt it was time to tell him why. He was fine dont you know! He just wanted to know if we could still drink together!He did seem to understand why I had pulled away. Said he was happy to still come around, even if it was Melissa who was home! 1 down still some to go!:D

[Rachael Warren]

Where to start! I am out to quite a few people that I know. However tonight was a little different. I have avoided a few friends for quite some time. Tonight I decided to out myself to my best "normal" friend. It has been a long time coming. We dont see each other so much any more , and I felt it was time to tell him why. He was fine dont you know! He just wanted to know if we could still drink together!He did seem to understand why I had pulled away. Said he was happy to still come around, even if it was Melissa who was home! 1 down still some to go!:D

Proud of you Mel!

Hugs, Rachael. :)

[Melissa Ryan]

I told him that I was the village idiot, he laughed and said that you had all worked me out then!

[Rachael Warren]

I told him that I was the village idiot, he laughed and said that you had all worked me out then!

Mel you are no idiot, you are one of the most caring people on the planet!

OK you are a bit blonde.................

But so am I!

[Holly]

-If you're out to someone, who are they?
Well, there's my wife. She's known for some time now. She is MORE than supportive. I love her so much ()- .

Then there's my adult daughter... she just found out in the last few months. It was quite by accident when she came over to the house one morning unannounced and I was still in my nightie! She was SO cool with it! She has since had a makeover in Las Vegas where I go for mine!

Not too long after that, I told a GG friend of mine. She wasn't too surprised as I had been going out on Halloween as a girl for several years. She gave me a box full of cosmetics! I love that GG!

And most recently I told a couple of GUYS that I dress. Even showed them my avatar pic on the internet! They were both caught way off guard... but accepted me without reservation. One thing that may have helped is that they are both gay and very sensitive to gender issues.

I have yet to tell my adult son. I am 100% certain that he suspects! That should be an interesting conversation... but I am pretty confident that he will accept me for who I am. Not sure if he is ready to see me, though. I'll be sure to let you know when the time comes.

In each case, I did feel so much better once it was out in the open. Holly is fed up with the closet... watch out world, here I come!

[Jenny Beth]

I have been out to my wife for over twenty years, dressing is just part of everyday life. My daughter from a previous relationship was living with us when she discovered some of my things. She was 16 at the time and moved back to her mother's. Things weren't good for a lot of years but we eventually had a good talk when she was 23. When I asked if she would be into meeting my femme side she said yes but needed time to prepare for it. A month or so later we planned to meet at a club that had drag shows. I'd never been to one and I was nervous as hell. She'd asked if she could bring a friend so I said sure. We met at the entrance to the club, it was awesome, I got a huge hug and in we went and had a great evening. She hasn't seen me dressed since.

I also came out to my wife's sister a few years ago. It wasn't planned, it just seemed to come out one night when we'd had a few drinks together. She was surprised to say the least but it hasn't affected our relationship. When we are over visiting I always get the best hugs from her when we leave.

[Stacie Stockman]

Im out to alot of my social circle(about some 20 GGs), and to my hairstylist. Not out at work, and family... Well I dont talk with my family anyways...