Hello from Central Illinois

[Jennifer Young]

Hello all. I've only recently started to crossdress and do enjoy it. I love wearing tights and heels. Just looking to look around and find out more from the community. Hope you'll welcome someone who has a lot to learn about dressing like a woman. :)

[Rachael Warren]

You've found the right place, welcome to the forum.

[Wanda Jones]

Welcome! You'll find all you need to know in here.

[Tristen Cox]

Hello there. Good to meet you. Welcome!

Do you have a name we can call you:188167_6U

[Lil]

Hello nice to meet you ,:D

[Katrina Reann]

Hi welcome to the club.... I am also from central Illinois:)

[Chrissie Renee]

:wel: to the club! :)

[Melissatvtg]

Hello from the Decatur area.

[sandra jane]

Hi Welcome to the club.

[Renee]

Welcome to the club.

[Eddy]

Welcome.

[Roberta-Llyan]

Greetings and Welcome with open arms. May your journey here be one of happiness and great joy and may you find acceptance.

Have a good day sweetie.

[Darlene]

Hello,

Its a pleasure to meet you, welcome to the club.

[JDs_Tali]

Welcome to the forum MarriedinIL :-)

[Jennifer Young]

Hello there. Good to meet you. Welcome!

Do you have a name we can call you:188167_6U

I'm Jeff - no female name yet. Thanks to everybody for the wonderful welcome. I look forward to finding out all about crossdressing. Right now, I just have some shoes and a couple of articles of clothing. I really enjoy skirts and my wife has a couple that actually fit me (she's quite short, so anything that is long on her is almost a little too revealing for me). :) I love tights and stockings. I'm waiting for a pair of knee high boots that I ordered recently to come in.

[KAREN]

Welcome, Hope We Can Help.

[Rachael Laverne]

Welcome here, Hon. Enjoy! It can be your second avocation!

[Jennifer Young]

I'm in Bloomie/Norm. Not sure where you're from. Looks like there's at least two of you that are nearby though. :)

[Katrina Reann]

I am from Green Valley....just south of Pekin:)

[Jennifer Young]

Green Valley - been through there many a time on trips between Peoria and Springfield. Nice to see someone not that far away. I'm definitely wanting to find others nearby to meet and get to know better. I'm really wanting to enjoy dressing up more, but as I'm just starting, I need a LOT of help. :) My first trip to Target for shopping was interesting but successful. Black is my colour, so I'm all about finding skirts and the like in black.

[stacey lynn]

welcome to the club and you will learn a lot here i did so enjoy

[Jennifer Young]

Melissa, I'm just up the road from you in Bloomie/Norm.

[Katrina Reann]

Green Valley - been through there many a time on trips between Peoria and Springfield. Nice to see someone not that far away. I'm definitely wanting to find others nearby to meet and get to know better. I'm really wanting to enjoy dressing up more, but as I'm just starting, I need a LOT of help. :) My first trip to Target for shopping was interesting but successful. Black is my colour, so I'm all about finding skirts and the like in black.

You'll have to stop by next time you come through this area. Me and my wife would love to meet you. She helped me with a lot of make up tips and style, so I am sure she could help you as well. If you have yahoo my id is RobertaLyn62, feel free to add me!!

[Jennifer Young]

Cool. I'll add ya! I'm marriedinil69 so you can add me too. Would be fun to meet someone who's much more experienced in this than I am (I'm just a closet CD now but who knows what the future brings).

[Michelle Gray]

Hello Marrie welcome to the club Lov.

[Melissa Ryan]

Hiya! We all got loads to learn! Welcome on here! :)

[Eddy]

Welcome.

[Jayla Lyn]

Welcome to the club hun.

[LilStevie]

Welcome:peace:

[Jennifer Young]

Well ladies, it's almost been a month since I joined the club. I have had a wonderful time so far and don't expect that to change. Everybody here is just so wonderful and helpful for a newbie like me. My original introduction was very short so I thought I would give you a little more indepth look into how I came to be here.

I'm from the midwest, Central Illinois all the way. I come from a very conservative family, not bible-thumping, but conservative, except for the origins of my life. Children born born out of wedlock in the last 60s was still an issue here and you guessed it, that's how I started out. :) My dad was a US Marine (Roberta, he went through hell in Vietnam but not the kind of hell you went through). My mom was a hairdresser. Six months after I was born, they got married and it lasted until about a week after I left for the US Air Force (they planed it that way). I grew up in a happy home for the most part. My dad is an alcoholic and my mom probably is too. But I was always cared for (mom was a stay-at-home mom, dad was a butcher first, then woodworker). We moved a lot. I went to six different schools in four different towns before I was finished. I made it through school ok. Smart but not really motivated on things that I didn't like (English, Literature). I joined the US Air Force and left for basic training in San Antonio a week after graduation. What a shock! But all in all, it was a good experience. I went to Biloxi, MS after basic training for computer operations school. Robert knows what it's like in Texas in June and July and Mississippi is just about the same, only MUCH MORE HUMID!!!!!! Spent four months in that inferno before heading to Frankfurt, (West) Germany for two years. I loved it, even though I didn't really get to appreciate it as much as I wanted to. Still, a great time and on the US taxpayers' dime. Thank you all!!!! :) After spending two years in Germany, leaving three days before the Berlin Wall was opened up, I went to Colorado Springs and NORAD Headquarters. Another big shock! They actually played airmen there. UGH!!!! Hated it, even though Colorado was beautiful. Fortunately, force reductions were in order (thank you George Bush the First) and I was able to get an honorable discharge after spending just over two and half of a scheduled four years. Moved back to Central Illinois and started my job hunt as well as college. Took years to go through college and still didn't finish but have been very lucky to get in the field and job that I'm currently in. Took a while but I made it (wish I had a hat to throw, just like Mary Tyler Moore). :)

Ok, now onto the more personal things. My relationships have been few in my life. I really didn't care to date and was happy by myself for the most part. About 7 years ago, a friend of mine set me up with a friend of hers and we started dating. It ended pretty bad, with her just saying it's over and giving me no explanation. I took it very hard and pretty much closed up for a few months. Then I went on a bit of a bender, trying to find anybody I could that would want to be with me (although not sexually). Ended up going to an online dating site for the first time and met some 'interesting' women. Actually met one in person who turned out to be a psycho. Ended up having to flee that situation and that ended things for a bit. A few months later, I met my wife (also online) who was pregnant at the time. We really hit if off and I helped her through all her pregnancy stuff as well as be there for the delivery (real father didn't care at all about the baby). We got married the following year and just over three years later, is coming to an end. She has since moved back where she's from and is attempting to work out her life (she has a history of mental illness, which is the main cause for our marriage failing - she lied to me too much about it). I am currently in legal proceedings to take over guardianship (not custody or rights) of 'our' three year old son because she cannot care for him (she wants the best for him and I have pretty much raised him since he was born). So, that gets you up to date. :)

All my life I've hung around girls and women. I had friends of both sexes growing up but as I got older, I tended to gravitate towards the girls. It wasn't a sexual attraction in most cases, although sometimes I look back and wished it had been. I had been asked many times if I was gay because I never had a girlfriend in high school. Just shrugged it off, because I wasn't. I didn't really understand what I was being asked at the time (remember, Central Illinois and it's the 80s but nothing much changed). Only when I was in Germany did I grasp what gay was, as I had many gay friends and went to clubs with them all the time. Back to me. Hanging around the girls, I always admired their clothes, never saying anything though. Wondered in my mind how I would look in their 80s finest. It was something that I really kept to myself for quite a few years, more than 10 actually before I bought my first article from a fetish store (PVC skirt and some stockings). Wore it a couple of times but that was about it. Never wore makeup or pursued anything further. Fast forward to a couple months ago and with divorce proceedings started and my wife moving out, I started thinking about dressing up again. With a closet full of my wife's clothes that she didn't take with her at the time, I started seeing what I could wear and what she wouldn't miss. It felt good to put something sexy on (she loves scoop necks and skirts). Since then, I've progressed further into femme mode, with the help of all you wonderful girls here. I look forward to moving even further down the road to fully becoming Janelle (thanks again Roberta - I LOVE IT!!!!).

I hope I haven't put everybody to sleep. I just wanted to share my life story with everybody as I feel so comfortable here.

Hugs from Janelle Lindsey

[jo-an]

hi glad to answer one of yours you have answerd mine before im new at this to although i had done it in the past but not as far as i go now hate to go my first pair of boots just come ups hit me up any time you want
hugs jo-an:) :) :) :)

[Jennifer Young]

hi glad to answer one of yours you have answerd mine before im new at this to although i had done it in the past but not as far as i go now hate to go my first pair of boots just come ups hit me up any time you want
hugs jo-an:) :) :) :)

Jo-an, I know how important it is to get those first boots. I just got my first pair a couple weeks ago and I was crazy!!!! :)

Have fun and I hope you'll post pics!!!!

Hugs from Janelle Lindsey

[Roberta-Llyan]

I look forward to moving even further down the road to fully becoming Janelle (thanks again Roberta - I LOVE IT!!!!).

I hope I haven't put everybody to sleep. I just wanted to share my life story with everybody as I feel so comfortable here.

Hugs from Janelle Lindsey


You are most welcome dear friend. I am honored to have been of help to you in your selection.

My heart reaches out to you and THANK YOU for sharing that about yourself. I enjoyed reading it and learning more about you personally.

Have a wonderful week sweetie. I give you a rose and hugs.

[Jennifer Young]

I'm by no means a writer or never claimed to be, so most of what comes out of my mouth (fingers) are ramblings. What I said here is actually the first time I've put my entire life down in one setting. I've told many people most of my life in various parts but never all at once. I just wanted to tell everybody here my story. I've read some amazing stories here and I know mine can't even compare. There is more to my life, but that can come later.

Thanks to everybody for being so nice and wonderful. I love all of you!

Hugs from Janelle Lindsey

[gennee]

Hi Janelle and welcome. I love to dress too and do so as much as possible. There are beautiful people here and I'm sure you will enjoy it.

Gennee

:hug: :hello:

[stacyB]

I met my wife (also online) who was pregnant at the time. We really hit if off and I helped her through all her pregnancy stuff as well as be there for the delivery (real father didn't care at all about the baby). We got married the following year and just over three years later, is coming to an end. She has since moved back where she's from and is attempting to work out her life (she has a history of mental illness, which is the main cause for our marriage failing - she lied to me too much about it). I am currently in legal proceedings to take over guardianship (not custody or rights) of 'our' three year old son because she cannot care for him (she wants the best for him and I have pretty much raised him since he was born).

Be careful there... the courts and the DFS do not look kindly on any parent that doesnt fit the "mold" (whatever the hell that is). They will have a field day when they learn you are a cross dresser. The fact that you raised this child from before he was born makes him your son, biology has little to do with it at this point.

I am not suggesting you change the path you are on, thats a very personal choice that only you can make. But be aware of the tough challenges you face ahead. Regardless what your wife agrees with, if she has a history of mental illness her parents, the father or in fact any government droid can challenge her rights as a mother on the basis of mental compentency, and yours as the guardian since you are not in fact biologically linked (and how stupid is that, your the only father your son has known!). Once the courts or the DFS enters the picture, all bets are off. There is no foster home or child care facility that can take your place, certainly not for the best welfare of your son...

I hope you are seeking competant legal advice as you proceed; again, too many spouses fall under the "we can work this out" spell and find themselves on the tail end of an Order Show Cause (or whatever they call it in Illinois). Since you have offspring at stake you cannot afford to take chances (and beware that you will be stretched financially if you end up fighting).

You've certainly got the moral support of everyone here! Good luck! :)

[bobbiemarie]

Hello and welcome from kewanee ill. I'm up here in the middle of noplace but want to meet and or know more friends always . please feel free to im me by my drab mame painted_deserts58 on yayoo im... always great to hear from gals that have something in common that we might have yet to know
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Bobbiemarie

[Jennifer Young]

Thanks Stacy. Yes, I am being represented by competant legal council and am not doing anything that will compromise my status. The Illinois courts are notoriously in favor of the mother and I have no legal recourse if she did decide to fight everything. I've already told my wife that if a fight were in order, Jordan (the little one) goes to her and she has to figure out how to care for him. The father is not an issue, since he doesn't really even exist (not on the birth certificate and no court order for child support). It is very unusual situation but Jordan is what is important. If I have to, I'll hold off on making that first heading out until a time when he is back with his mother (whenever that may be, if ever, based on how I think she is mentally)

Like I've said before, I'm still very new at this and I have no plans at the time to head out the door dressed up or let my little one see me.

Thanks Stacy. Gotta go wake Jordan up and unleash the beast that is him in the morning. :)

Hugs from Janelle Lindsey

[Renee]

Thanks Stacy. Yes, I am being represented by competant legal council and am not doing anything that will compromise my status. The Illinois courts are notoriously in favor of the mother and I have no legal recourse if she did decide to fight everything. I've already told my wife that if a fight were in order, Jordan (the little one) goes to her and she has to figure out how to care for him. The father is not an issue, since he doesn't really even exist (not on the birth certificate and no court order for child support). It is very unusual situation but Jordan is what is important. If I have to, I'll hold off on making that first heading out until a time when he is back with his mother (whenever that may be, if ever, based on how I think she is mentally)

Like I've said before, I'm still very new at this and I have no plans at the time to head out the door dressed up or let my little one see me.

Thanks Stacy. Gotta go wake Jordan up and unleash the beast that is him in the morning. :)

Hugs from Janelle Lindsey

These travesties that are laughingly called courts and the clowns that preside over them should be begging you to do what's best for that child. They are without understanding. Pharisees and hypocrites.

[Jennifer Young]

The definitely can be that. I'm in no position to fight and will fold like a piece of paper if challenged on anything. But we are on good terms, even though we're going through a divorce. It's best for everybody actually, since we can now talk without fearing retribution for something said wrong. She's four hours away too, so that makes it easier for me to continue with my life, as well as raise Jordan. I'm just doing the best I can and hope that it all works out for him.

Hugs from Janelle Lindsey

[Susy Doll]

Nice to see that you ar putting Jordan's interest's first, way to go babe :up:

[Jennifer Young]

He is the most important part of both our lives and I'm thankful that my wife is trusting me to care for him for an indefinite period of time (which based on how she can be at times, could be until he is 18).

Hugs from Janelle Lindsey

[stacyB]

These travesties that are laughingly called courts and the clowns that preside over them should be begging you to do what's best for that child. They are without understanding. Pharisees and hypocrites.

Unfortunately things will not change anytime soon... I had no choice but to fight for my son and it cost me my life savings at the time... not to trivialize, but its only money, and I made legal precident for fathers in a state far worse than Illinois.

The result? I have been a part of my son's life for his entire life. But its not a battle for the faint of heart, and I am most decidedly the biological parent.

I think its great that you are on good terms with you soon to be ex, but you really need to cautious legally... If your wife is truly unstable then its your responsibility to ensure his safety above her comfort level. This isnt about vindication, greed, etc... the courts are truly vicious places and can destroy both sides using scorched earth tactics. Judges are overloaded and dont care, most lawyers are more interested in their own ego and wallet, and the DFS droids are to be avoided like the agents in the Matrix. Unfortunately I speak from experience... I wish I could give you a rosier picture, but then I wouldn't be truthful...

On a more positive note, go enjoy your time with your son. Remember this time when he is 3, when they become teenagers you'll long for the time you could still pick them up without getting a hernia...

[Julie]

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[Roberta Young]

Janelle
welcome. fantastic group here! enjoy. luv Roberta

[Denise in ny]

hi Jannelle

[Jennifer Young]

hi Jannelle

Hi Denise. Amazing how these threads pop up again with new posts after a couple of weeks. :) Always like nice folks saying 'Hi' though.

[Jennifer Young]

Hello everyone. I'm Janelle and it's been quite some time since I've been around here. Let's just say that I took some time away from the non-essential life things for a while because life just got so crazy. I did a sort of purge, but fortunately, not of any of my clothes. :)

For those who don't remember me (or those that may but just want to read about me again - hehehe), I'm a 41yo, still very new, CD from the boonies of the Central US. I've really only been dressing for about two years. I personally feel I have no chance of being able to ever go out in public, but I'm also pretty self critical. I started laser treatments on my face recently and even after only one, I can see some progress. I'm still way clueless on the makeup front but as the facial hair hopefully goes away, I can start to work on that.

Just want to say 'Hi' to everyone.

[Mary]

Hi Janelle, It's nice to hear from you again.

[stacyB]

Janelle, welcome back, was good chatting with you last night! :)